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Live each day to the Fullest 10 January 2009

This post will be a long one, but hey, take the time to read it. I believe that this is something really important to everyone.

Just as I was talking to G last night, I got myself thinking on the word 'Depends', as often as she uses it. Here's what the dictionary has to say:

Depends:
To rely, especially for support or maintenance
To place trust or confidence: You can depend on his honesty.
To be determined, conditioned, or contingent
To have a dependence: began to depend more and more on drugs.
To be pending or undecided.

As we can see, the word depends has so many meanings to it. I would like to focus on 2 main points in relation to depends, depends(being undecided) and depends(being dependent upon something/someone).

Oftenly used when asking someone out, making decisions, many people use the word depends, because they do not know what is going to happen on that particular day and perhaps, they do not want to make a commitment. And as a result, it leads to a huge amount of uncertainty, leaving the other party at a loss, not knowing what would be next. This often results in mixed emotions, unhappiness, quarrels, and who knows what.

Just imagine your friend asking you out 3 weeks before the date, and you telling him/her, 'it all depends', though you know very well that you are able to make it that day. But just day(s) before the actual date, you had clean forgotten about the request and decided to carry on with another activity. Would that be fair?

Repeating it once again, the word depends, does cause alot of uncertainty.

On the other hand the word depends happens to be about dependence, when one depends on something or someone, and even a situation or for something to happen before it results in something. It is like depending on that something, a third party before making a decision. Let's put it this way, you have arranged with your friends for a date and you are not sure if you may have something on that day, perhaps work, therefore telling your friends that it will depend on the situation.

Let us talk about a person using the word depends, which many people do. From my point of view(you may not agree with me), a person who uses the word depends often:

1. Is someone that finds it hard or impossible to make commitments. And if someone finds it hard making the simplest of commitments, wouldn't that make his/her life so indecisive?

2. Will be uncertain in the things that he/she does because everything that he/she does will have the word depends in it. 'It all depends on this, on that.'

3. Would always be dependent on someone/something, a third party decision maker.

4. Will be someone rather reliant.

5. May not be a committed person when it comes to making important decisions.

In life, there are always decisions to make. And I feel, that it is through making decisions, that people grow, become more mature, become more decisive in life. Most importantly, learn to keep your promises. If you agreed on something, and make your word for real. And if something crops up after that, it may be wise to decline the offer UNLESS it is something really important like a family matter, or something that really needs you to attend to. Even as such, you have to make the right decisions and not use it as an excuse.

A split road has only 2 paths ahead of you, the left or the right. There's no turning back. It's either a Yes or a No, a Right or a Wrong. It is only when a decision is so difficult to make that we pause to think about it. But ultimately, you are still left with 2 choices to make. And remember, when you commit yourself to something, remember to keep your promise and fufil it.

This is what I feel many people, whether adults or teenagers have to learn. To Promise, To Commit, To Assure.

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